Posted by Howard Brockman on Sep 8, 2014 in Boundaries | 0 comments Some people have strong personalities and are direct in their communication.They can often be interpreted as domineering, aggressive, confrontational, demanding, hostile, or even abusive. Others may be intimidated or feel bullied and you may as well.How DO YOU take care of yourself when dealing with this personality type? Perhaps they act this way because of how they were raised. Regardless of their motive, you can reduce your personal stress by considering some of the following ideas. While this is easier said than done, you will maintain your critical thinking rational mind if you maintain your composure.

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How difficult a person is for you to deal with depends on your self-esteem, your self-confidence, and your professional courage.

Dealing with difficult people is easier when the person is just generally obnoxious or when the behavior affects more than one person. Others criticize anything that they did not create.

Dealing with them is much tougher when they are attacking you or undermining your professional contribution. Difficult coworkers compete with you for power, privilege, and the spotlight; some go way too far in courting the boss’s positive opinion – to your detriment.

Always protect yourself by knowing and trusting your gut. Read More Howard Brockman, LCSW is a psychotherapist who has been in private practice for 32-years.

If you feel you are being attacked verbally, consider leaving the situation and letting the other person know why you are leaving. If you find yourself ruminating over and over about the same encounter you had with this person earlier in the day, you got triggered and are still processing it. He is a Diplomate in Clinical Social Work and The Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology.

This is setting appropriate boundaries so you feel safe emotionally and physically. If this happens over and over again with the same person, consider individual or couple counseling. He has a master’s degree in Social Ethics/Religious Studies from the University of Southern California and a master’s degree in Social Work from Portland State University. They come in every variety and no workplace is without them.If you react emotionally you are often going to end up feeling unhappy and even angry. Reference to your body and consider taking a deep breath. Others may judge you as too sensitive but others don’t live in your skin.If your body is tense your autonomic nervous system is beginning to activate its fight or flight mechanism for your protection. Setting limits on others’ aggressive behaviors is a powerful way to take care of yourself and say NO without later feeling guilty.It is essential that you feel you are being treated with respect.You are entitled to a different opinion from the person who is being nasty to you.