On the other hand should it be that he is sincere, really does want to get serious, and likes the idea of openly discussing it with his sister, it might make things even better. NO SIBLINGS EVER WANT TO HEAR DETAILS OF THEIR BRO/SIS’S LOVE LIFE. You won’t be able to talk about where your relationship is going or share those stupid girly details we are all guilty of. It can come as a total shock and make her close up real fast if she’s not broken in. Find a good time, like over dinner, or coffee, or whatever it is you kids do these days.Just take it slow, and come up with a strategy/game plan on how to tell her yourself. Make sure you have her full undivided attention, and be very straight forward about how you feel.

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But hey, some people are just secretive about their lives.

There are some things that you don’t tell her as well and so it’s no big deal to you that she behaves that way.

She raves about how romantic he is and how nicely he treats her.

Me and this guy have been talking for a few weeks now. Or is the whole thing wrong and I should just end it all? It creates secrecy, and goes against morals/ethics/etc.

And it's getting pretty serious, but the problem is, is that he's my best friends older brother. Oh that good old dating the older brother but are good friends with the sister situation! Bottom line: if you like him and you are really into him and it’s not some kind of sick game, this could be a really good thing. But once someone finds out, the fun of it goes away and people get hurt.

So perhaps you need to discuss with him if these feelings are real or if this is just one big mind f*** because of the rush you’re both getting by keeping it a secret from her.

If it is a rush and the secrecy is what’s keeping it going, your feelings might get hurt, but it may be able to spare her feelings and keep the friendship intact. Or the two of you can become even closer, but keep in mind that you need to set boundaries. you know, “Oh last night we totally messed around in a movie.” She’s NOT going to want to hear what you and him are up to. And definitely start slow with the displays of affection in front of her.

Be prepared for hurt feelings, and the possibility that she may no longer want to be close friends. And sometimes these situations they are worth the risk.

Just follow the advice of having the talk with the brother first, and then see how it goes from there.

When you ask her about anything personal she switches the subject quicker than a race car driver switches gears.

When you ask her where she’s going she never really gives you a straight forward answer.