This group of people was having sexual behavior problems even before the Internet came along.For them, the appearance of the Internet simply became another means of accessing a longstanding obsession.

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Our marital sex life became practically existent and I watched my wife blame herself for my distancing from her.

I spent money we didn’t have on pay-per-view porn sites, memberships in online sex sites and the Webcam I used to access and engage in live online sex acts.

I even bought gifts for some online “girlfriends” whom I never actually met.

Despite having no previous history of adultery, Hank planned and carried out two extramarital sexual encounters with long-term online sexual partners, seeking help only when his wife found out about his behavior and threatened to leave him.

Hank writes of the many consequences of his cybersex involvement: Looking back, I am amazed by the immense amount of time and energy I put into my cybersex activity.

It created emotional distance, frustration, and impatience in my relationships with my wife and children and took up work time and office resources.Waiting until my wife went to sleep and then often staying up on the computer until two or three in the morning left me, more often than not, getting only three to six hours of sleep, leaving me exhausted, depressed, and physically unwell. With personal stories from porn addicts and significant others, professionals Robert Weiss and Jennifer Schneider offer direction, understanding, and hope to anyone sturggling with the devastating effects of porn and sexual betrayal on intimacy, relationships, family, career, and self respect. Approximately 1 percent of those identified as “cybersex addicts” in a follow-up analysis reported a lengthy history of sexual acting out (compulsive sexual activities) and sexually addictive behaviors such as anonymous sex, sex with prostitutes, and compulsive masturbation, that long preceded their discovery of sex on the Internet. Prominent politicians, business executives and Americans have seen their careers and lives derailed due to cybersex addiction. They were considered to be addictive in their cybersex use because they generally denied they had a problem; had made repeated efforts to decrease their online sexual activities; and continued going online despite poor academic or job performance, relationship difficulties, job loss, sexual harassment lawsuits, arrest, failed relationships, or other adverse consequences related to their cybersex use. The Internet and the immediacy that it offers for sexual gratification has shaped our society more profoundly than any other media in history. These cybersex users spent at least eleven hours per week in online sexual pursuits. Alvin Cooper and associates of a 9,265 Internet users found that 8.5 percent were sexually compulsive or addicted.