What was it that happened after the wedding day that made sex suddenly okay? But because my sexuality was connected to my body and my soul, sinning sexually had consequences that no other sin could. We’re asking, “How far is too far,” instead of, “Why are we committed to waiting in the first place?” Learn from me and teach that to your youth group kids.

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—————————— It used to drive me crazy that people would talk about sex like it was the worst sin in the universe. You could mess around with a dozen guys, do everything except sex, and you were still allowed to call yourself a virgin. One day I heard a pastor ranting and raving about a woman living in sin with her boyfriend and I was so angry at him. But when I got home I looked up the pastor’s message on You Tube and listened to it again. Deciding to wait for marriage for sex wasn’t easy, especially after I had already messed up.

I read I, “Kissed Dating Goodbye,” and, “When God Writes Your Love Story.” I even went on a youth group retreat where I was encouraged to write letters to my future husband. But as I got older and started dating I discovered that there were all kinds of tricky loopholes to the whole virginity thing. It seemed like the whole world was out to get me for decisions it had told me were okay.

What was the point of waiting for marriage for sex if we were just going to fool around with our boyfriends? When we talked about sex at youth group I would always get the same explanations: “Your body is a precious treasure and you need to treat it accordingly.” “Sex is a gift that you only get to give away once.” These explanations didn’t satisfy me. And eventually jumped right over the line when I didn’t see the point in skirting around it anymore. I was living in sin with my boyfriend and it sounded kind of like he was yelling at me. I read the passage he was talking about from 1 Corinthians. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” Suddenly it made sense to me. But the thing that helped me more than anything else was being able to ask honest questions, and knowing there were people who would try to answer them.

If sex was such a bad thing, I wondered, than how come it felt like such a good thing? But I couldn’t kick the feeling that something was really, really wrong. Sex was not a worse sin than any other sin that I could commit. I didn’t have any STDs or unwanted pregnancies or restraining orders against boyfriends. I had to wake up everyday feeling and knowing that my spirit was dying. I’m convinced my generation is asking the wrong questions about sex and sexuality.

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