Many years ago, a guy friend said something that completely changed the way I viewed sex and relationships.He said: “Before a girl sleeps with a guy, she has all the power.Afterward, he has all the power.” I’ve told this to countless friends, both male and female, over the years and have been met with a resounding: “That is true!

I’ve dated guys like that, the ones who were ready to marry me on the first date, and I wasn’t flattered…I was freaked out.

The truth is, deciding when to sleep with a guy is important and will have an impact on your relationship. No girl has ever lost interest in a guy because he slept with her on the first date while guys lose interest in girls all the time for giving it up too soon.

A close friend of mine recently met an amazing guy on an online dating site.

Most men want sex and most women want a commitment.

That’s not to say men don’t want commitment, they do, it’s just not the driving force behind their behavior, getting a lot of sex is.

You can blame it on biology and a man’s innate need to spread his seed, or on today’s culture which deems men who sleep with lots of women studs (and women who sleep with lots of men sluts), but it’s just the way it is.As such, women have control when it comes to sex and can decide whether to give in or not, while men have the control when it comes to commitment.There will be some women who will argue with this fact, and counter by saying they know tons of women who enjoy casual sex and lots of men who are yearning for commitment.Yes, there are people like this, but I’m speaking about the rule, not the exceptions.You don’t often see a woman plotting ways to sleep with many men and wiggle out of any sort of commitment, or a man trying to figure out how to get a girl to just commit and want only him.Just as there is a stigma against women who sleep with a lot of men, there is a stigma against men who are super into commitment and invest way too soon.