One of those friends, Birger told me, "had been dating a guy for a couple years.

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I sat down for a long talk with Birger and found out why boys aren't graduating from college, why your best friend is single, and why more women should consider moving to Silicon Valley.

VICE: How did you determine that there was this nation-wide "man deficit" among the college-educated?

Jon Birger: I think when I began the research, I actually thought the conclusion was a little different.

I assumed this was a New York problem or a big city thing. I mean they exist, they're just not going to college.

We all have that friend: the beautiful, intelligent, driven woman who—like Katherine Heigl in every rom-com—can't find a decent date.

Every guy she goes out with is an asshole; she consistently dates "below" her league, and she's on the verge of giving up on a committed relationship altogether.

Not long after he turned 30, the writer Jon Birger realized he and his wife knew a lot of women like that.

The couple didn't have a lot of single male friends left, but the many single women they knew all seemed to be buyers stuck in a seller's market.

Like in New York, I [thought] it had something to do with the labor market here; fashion and PR and media attract a lot of women and Wall Street isn't nearly the all-male bash that it used to be, so I figured there would be all those shifts in the labor market—[I thought] maybe there was something unique about LA and Washington and New York that make them particularly bad for women. In fact, what I call the "college man deficit" is worse in rural states like Montana and West Virginia and Mississippi than it is in California and New York. This isn't China or India where they have a man-made gender imbalance because of all sorts of horrendous things.

[Men are] out there, they're just not going to college.

Last year about 35 percent more women than men graduated from college. The Department of Education projects that by the class of 2023, there will be 47 percent more women than men [graduating from college]. Obviously, none of this would matter if we were all a little more open-minded about who we are willing to date and marry.