Here’s what’s lost in all of this ill will, people – you have the right to date whomever you want.It shouldn’t matter if bae is Smurfette, the She-Hulk or one of those giant blue women from Avatar – as long as that person treats you with respect, love and admiration, what else do you need?I also hate the weird sense of “duty” that is often batted around in these conversations, as if you’re somehow betraying an entire race by dating outside of it, disparaging your ancestors in the process.

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Finding someone who loves you unconditionally is the biggest hurdle.

Everything beyond that – especially other people’s irrelevant opinions – is largely irrelevant.

I’m on a roll, gimmie another question: I never bought into that “you can’t help who you love” mentality, sorry Ledisi.

Don’t get a brother wrong, I love being married to a black woman.

Our cultural experiences are a strong tie, but they’re not the sole bond that keeps us together.

It’s the woman herself that makes this relationship unbreakable.Sure, race is a factor in nearly every major factor in our society, but it’s not the ONLY factor.I’m not sure what the weather’s like in your neck of the woods, but those woods look like this out here: Before you seek out a warm body for your bed, please make sure he or she isn’t an utter disappointment. Send your inquiries to [email protected], or find me on Twitter @etbowser. Here’s today’s question: It’s 2015 and y’all are still out here fussing about melanin levels? Complaining about who someone else is dating like it’s any of your business. When black men – arguably the most stereotyped and subjugated minority group in the country – see black women dating outside their race, they, once again, feel shunned.There are about 50-eleven more important issues – like why we still haven’t received those hoverboards and self-lacing high-tops Back to the Future Part II promised us. When society is constantly telling you you’re not good enough, only to see “your women” also turn their backs on you, it’s painful.But ladies, don’t front like you haven’t experienced that pain yourself.Fed Up says it in her letter — “we have seen them pass us over for white or women of other races.” It’s yet another minority group that struggles with image and inferiority issues being told they’re not good enough.